Dealing with our own Jealousy

What do we do when we start to feel jealous?

Jealousy is the green eyed monster that we all go through from someone (or worse a group of individuals) at some point in our lives. However, there are plenty of articles online talking about how to deal with jealous people.

In this post, I want to talk about dealing with our own jealousy. It happens and guess what, it is 100% okay.

The  more that you are exposed to those that are where you want to be, you may start to feel jealous and envious of there accomplishments. This is natural. Everyone goes through it, trust me.

The problem with jealousy is that many people don’t know how to handle it when it arises internally. If you start to feel it welling up, don’t push it aside or suppress the feeling. Explore why you feel the way you do. When you engage yourself in an internal conversation and figure out why you are being triggered, you will learn more about yourself and figure out where your weak points are.

I want to share a couple of points that have helped me deal with jealousy, when I feel the green-eyed monster rising up:

  1. Check Myself
    • I like to ask myself: What is it about this person that is triggering this feeling? Is it their accomplishments? Their looks? Their talent?
  2. Stop Comparing
    • I make myself take a look at my own life and simply appreciate it for what it is. I make sure that I am grateful for the things that I have, where I am at on my journey, and shower myself with self love.
  3. Congratulate
    • My mother says this mega helpful saying that goes a little something like “Don’t hate, congratulate.” Spread some love and positivity by saying something nice about the person you feel envy toward. This is the most helpful tip for me because it takes me out of a negative funk.

I hope you found this post helpful!

Let me know what you think about jealousy and your experience with it in the comments below!

XOXO

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